As for the question posed by the title of this post, you may be thinking well, yeah, my spouse and I are Christians. But just because the two of you are Christians does not mean God is an active partner in your marriage. He may be only a passive partner. For God to be an active partner in your marriage, you must allow Him to do so. He forces Himself on no one.
I happen to know a little bit about this thing called marriage. My wife and I have been married for over 44 years. Success in marriage does not just happen. It takes work to make marriage work. Both the husband and the wife must be committed to marital success. Meanwhile, our adversary the devil and the demons of hell are committed to seeing our marriage fail. That’s one reason why allowing God to have an active role in our marriage is essential.
Regardless of the relationship between a parent and a child, the parent will remain the parent. If the child shuts the parent out of his or her life, however, the parent can’t play an active role in the child’s life. The resulting problem with such a relationship between the parent and the child is that the child can’t benefit from the parent’s bank of knowledge and experience.
Some Christian couples have a similar kind of relationship with God in their marriage. They have chosen to not allow Him to be an active partner in their marriage. That is, they don’t allow His Word, recorded in the Scriptures, to have a relevant place in their marriage or personal lives. Consequently, they don’t get the benefit of God’s input, protection, and grace.
Marriage and Our Relationship with God
One thing true about every marriage is that neither partner in it is literally perfect. Each person is still growing in his or her personal relationship with God. Some marriage partners have a long way to go in this area.
Each marriage partner’s individual relationship with God will bear significantly on the quality of marriage the two can experience.
Moreover, it is not uncommon for a marriage to have challenges or rocky seasons at times. A couple can have a picture-perfect wedding one day, and two years later file for divorce. But a failed marriage does not happen overnight.
The question is, how much of a role does the Word of God and prayer play in your personal relationship with God and in your marriage during difficult times? The answer to that question says a lot about whether or not God is an active partner in your marriage.
Developing a strong relationship with God through Christ is not an option but a must. That’s if you want to have the best marriage possible, and if you want to maximize your chance of a lasting marriage.
God knows more about marriage than anybody else does. Marriage was exclusively His idea. God wrote the book on marriage. He has the best answer for every marital challenge. He causes us to triumph in all things. I believe that makes Him the best marriage partner we can have.
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